praxis

The Art of Coaching

 

This is dedicated to the artists out there. Remember its a dance, lead with your listening, and follow your passion. The rhythm will carry you. 

 
Without listening, action becomes motion. Movement lacks purpose, and power. Maintaining empathy, listening, and compassion in the high-stakes, fast-paced results driven environment of sport is one of the biggest challenges coaches face. 

The 6 Attributes of Dynamic Leadership

Agility

Situational Analysis

Initiative / Competiveness

Networks / Relationships

Task / Role Engagement


Coaching is a dynamic dance between disciplines. A coach is an educator, entrepreneur, artist, competitor, creator, mentor, and cultural alchemist.

If my 2 month foray into the wide and wonderful world of collegiate coaching has shown me anything, it is that the label coach is a huge misnomer. The role of ‘coach’ is way more complex than its name. Coaching is a dynamic dance between disciplines. A coach is an educator, entrepreneur, artist, competitor, creator, mentor, and cultural alchemist. A coach must be as honest, versatile, vulnerable and aware as the athletes they lead. 

Why? Because sport environments are incredibly dynamic and competitive. Constantly changing circumstances challenge coaches to be who they need to be, and for whom, in the exact moment they need to be it. It requires being tough when toughness is needed, calm when calmness is required, energetic when energy is demanded, and silent when silence is best. If they don’t respond timely and appropriately to the needs of the moment - if the response is too late, or too early, too harsh, or too meek, or to the wrong audience, the action, though well intended, lacks resonance, and rather than engaging stakeholders in the dance, it disengages them.

Moment by dynamic moment, they play the role life, and sport, demands of them, when it demands it. 

Ultimately, a coach is measured by their ability to deliver results .  But which results matters most, and to whom? Wins, championships, learning, excellence in the classroom, tradition, citizenship, community, service, career growth, player fulfillment/engagement, transfer rate, happiness, profitability? 

The greatest coaches seem to do it all. They deliver results in all domains. They make a masterpiece of every moment, and in doing so, each masterpiece becomes part and parcel of a greater miracle. Great coaches win championships in every moment. They create the impact that matters most in every situation. They weave miracles thread by invisible thread. Step by invisible step. Moment by dynamic moment. They play the role life, and sport, demands of them, when it demands it. 

To use the label ‘coach’ almost diminishes the actual responsibility these leaders undertake.  They don't just coach sport performance, they create environments for personal exploration, expression, experience, and excellence - safe spaces for athletes to engage in the often messy and uncomfortable process of growth. They balance the demands of various stakeholders while enriching robust cultures of learning and development. They manage teams, teach lessons, organize schedules, build, brand and sell programs, mentor individuals, modify behavior, analyze data, strategize systems, monitor finances,  and energize excellence. The great ones do it all while maintaining humility, discipline, and an unshakeable passion for their art. 

Traction in the Moment:

  • Listen for Specific Demands of the Situation
  • Understand Needs of people within situation
  • Focus on the Impact You Want to Create 
  • Act, Speak in alignment with that impact
  • Reflect on action and short/longterm impact

The secret to mastery in dynamic environments is maintaining traction and versatility within the situation. Aligning words and actions to meet the needs of the situation, and the people involved. Timing is a huge part of successful leadership - appropriate action in the the appropriate moment, which requires vigilant awareness and deep listening to the specific needs of the moment. 

Often, the more dynamic, competitive and results driven the environment, the more brashly we act, and re-act. Hyper-focus on, and desire for external results distracts leaders from pure listening. Without listening, action becomes motion. Movement lacks purposeful and powerful impact. Maintaining empathy, listening, and compassion in the high-stakes, fast-paced results driven environment of sport is one of the biggest challenge coaches face. 

It begs the question - are coaches provided adequate development opportunities  and resources to deliver the dynamic output necessary to ensure the robust performance and growth of the athletes they manage? To whom are coaches ultimately responsible - the athlete, parents, alumni, the university, society, spectators, the media? Does society drain and distract coaches from their ultimate responsibility - the development of the athlete? 

Being dynamic and versatile is not about being a chameleon, and changing colors, it about being a champion in every moment. You can’t be everything for everyone all the time. Be who and what is needed in the moment. Stay true to your art, lead with your listening, and trust the rhythm of your soul.

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Discover Within, Expand Beyond,

Rachel

The Developmental Element

 

This post is dedicated to the coaches, leaders, and creators who are courageous enough to share their unique models of understanding with the world. I admire, celebrate, and thank you.

 
Growth is natural and enduring. It is not a goal to be reached or a game to be won. It is not achievable. It is process to be honored and respected. It is timeless, perfect, absolute and complete. You can’t force it. It happens when you are ready, when you’ve prepared the soil, and open yourself to it. 

The Developmental Element

Grow & create purposefully, expand naturally

The 6 Developmental Attributes

Goal setting 

Growth Mindset (Curiosity)

Inspiration

Values 

Role and Task engagement 

Purpose


I plagued myself with the fever of more and better, always trying to get somewhere, and prove something.  I searched outside myself desperate to understand and connect with something that could only be found within me. 

Be clear and simple about who you are and what you want to create. Get to what is essential. Essence is the key to development. It is the source of power, transformation and understanding. From essence, you can grow, create, and expand naturally into your potential. 

As long as I can remember, I fought the wisdom of 'less is more.' I believed that developing myself meant adding on, building, improving, bettering, perfecting, going as far as possible as quickly as possible. I lived in the weeds. Growth had a desperate, complicated, comparative, achievement-oriented quality. I plagued myself with the fever of more and better, always trying to get somewhere, and prove something.  I searched outside myself desperate to understand and connect with something that could only be found within me. 

Developing isn’t about adding on, or improving, it is  about stripping down, getting to the source of you, and letting magic emerge.

There were rare moments of connection, though, when I got so physically, mentally, and emotionally exhausted and let go of striving, and just let myself be vulnerable and in the process that I experienced magic. In those moments, space emerged. I could see myself and life clearly. Those fleeting, spacious moments of wonder kept me curious, and infused me with enough courage to stay upon the path of self-discovery.  That path has not always been an easy one. It has been an essential one. 

Developing isn’t about adding on, or improving, it is  about stripping down, getting to the source of you, and letting magic emerge. The word develop means to un - envelop, to unfold or unfurl, like a Koru, the Maori word for a new silver fern frond that expands from a single point of origin in what seems like perpetual motion. Growth is like that, it is natural and enduring. It is not a goal to be reached or a game to be won. It is not achievable. It is process to be honored and respected. It is timeless, perfect, absolute and complete. You can't force it. It happens when you are ready, when you've prepared the soil, and open yourself to it.


The 6 Developmental Attributes

Goal Setting - ability to set and pursue clear markers of progress  

Growth Mindset - a sense of wonder and curiosity to explore and grow

Inspiration - To be stirred and enlivened by genius, brilliance, and beauty

Values - a set of core principles that guide behavior and decision-making 

Role and Task Engagement - specific function and contribution, willingness to play part in something bigger

 Purpose - mission, calling, intention


What is Praxis?

A container or model for personal understanding, discovery, expression and expansion
  • How I understand life, sport, growth and the world around me
  • A model to express, share and engage in conversation about how I  understand life, sport, and the world around me
  • A space, and process, for others to explore, discover, develop and express their own models of understanding

Magic comes unnoticed. Space appears, and you simply emerge into your potential.   

Thats how Praxis happened. It emerged from something within when I stopped striving to understand it. I began to see space between the parts of my experience, and space led to connection - an understanding of how the parts fit together. That fit developed into a model that helped me communicate how I understood myself, life, growth and the world around me. Praxis became a container  for personal exploration, discovery, expression and expansion. Praxis is a process.With every experience, it evolves. It is molded and shaped by every conversation, interaction, and experience. 

I encourage you to explore your own model of understanding. I encourage you to connect to what is essential to you - who you are and what you want to create. Get rid of the layers and fluff of sport, and hone in on the essence of the experience. I encourage you to explore, discover, develop and express your unique and personal model of understanding.

I encourage you to let go,unfurl, and follow the path. Create space for magic.  

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Discover Within, Expand Beyond,

Rachel

Results that Matter

 

This post is dedicated to Kylie, 13 years old from New Jersey, and all the athletes competing this weekend.

 
Photo by Planet Hockey, Ned Dawson

Photo by Planet Hockey, Ned Dawson

What matters is the person you become through the toils and spoils of sport, and what becomes possible for you, and the world around you, by virtue of your daily choices.”

At some point, the game will end. The whistle will blow and your work on the field will be done. Maybe you won, maybe you didn’t. I don’t care about that. I don’t care if you saw playing time, or how much. I don’t care if you were the superstar, watergirl, coach, parent, or referee.

I do care about the result, though. The result that shows up in everything you do - how you compete, how you smile, how you cry, how you treat people, how you work, how you engage in the tough conversations, how you handle adversity, how you experience and contribute to the world around you.

The result that matters is the person you become through the toils and spoils of sport, and what becomes possible for you, and the world around you, by virtue of your daily choices.

Sport is a vehicle like a car or a train. It moves you from one place to the next. It’s a tool like a shovel or a chisel to shape yourself.  Every experience you have, on and off the field - every interaction, decision, game, drill, and word will take you someplace new. Every moment will shape you.

Decide what success means to you”

How it shapes you and where it takes you happens by chance or by choice. I beg you please don’t wish and hope your way through your life. If you want something, work for it. Take whatever box life offers you, make a sturdy ship, set your sails, trust the winds, and trust yourself. Everything you need you already have, you just have to be willing to discover it within you.

Start now, and start small. Make your bed, brush your teeth, hug your mom, say thank you to the janitor at school, ask your dad how his day was. Make someone smile, even if that someone is you.

Decide what success means to you. What does it look like? Feel like? Sound like?

Choose a desired outcome for your sport experience. What do you want from it? What brings you the most joy? Pick a measurable result, like a certain milestone or progress marker, and choose a feeling-based result. Ask yourself this question, when the game is over, how do I want to feel?

I don’t care what outcomes you choose. Everyone's intended outcomes will look very different.

The important thing is that you choose outcomes for yourself from where you are right now. Choose something that lives a little beyond your grasp - something that lights you up and scares you at the same time. Something that seems a little impossible, but you know with work will become entirely probable.

So from time to time, get quiet, and listen to the beating of your own heart. Look in the mirror, deep in your own eyes, and choose the path that awakens your soul. Your gut will rumble with nerves. Trust that feeling.”

And when that desired outcome becomes reality, when you've gone beyond yourself, start again. Set a new intention, and work into it.

Along the way, listen for the input of others - me, your parents, coaches, teammates. There's value in listening. Do it with an open mind. Remember that ultimately the choice is yours, and yours alone. So from time to time, get quiet, and listen to the beating of your own heart. Look in the mirror, deep in your own eyes, and choose the path that awakens your soul. Your gut will rumble with nerves. Trust that feeling. That's when you know.

Not everyone will understand your choice. That doesn't mean it is wrong. It just means that there is an opportunity to share your perspective and have a conversation. That conversation may be difficult. But it will be worthwhile. Don’t avoid the tough conversations.  They will open your eyes, or someone else's to a new perspective. Be honest and respectful, and remember that what matters most is how you have the conversation.

Just like I care about how you have the conversation, I care about how you compete, and how you pursue your desired outcomes. I care that you compete in a way that nurtures the best in you. You will stumble a million times. You’ll stand up, and then stumble again. That’s how babies learn to walk. I care how you respond to the stumbles. That you choose to keep learning. You’ll meet bullies along the way. They will try to push you down, and sometimes you'll push yourself down. I challenge you - don't be a bully, and don't accept bullying from anyone, including yourself.

Prepare yourself in a way that makes winning possible. Do whatever it takes to make that happen, and when it is time to take the field, let go of all expectations and fears. Trust your preparation, play free, show yourself exactly as you are, and trust what comes of that. You won’t always win. Your heart will get broken, and that will hurt. Its okay to hurt, and feel pain. Let the pain break you wide open to new adventures.

I care that you use the work of sport to shape the person you are and continue to become. I care that you trust yourself. I care that you build sustaining habits and undo the destructive ones. I care that you chose to play in a way that lets you give to and serve those around you.

A million people will to support you in all you want to become, but remember they can only support you if you support yourself. Start supporting yourself. Look in the mirror, and choose to support yourself in all you are, and all you want to become.

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Discover Within, Expand Beyond,

Rachel